Ali Silver has had enough of holier-than-thou attitudes…

I’m pretty sure I’m going to get some enemies on the back of this post but sometimes the truth hurts, and I have a feeling this will hit a bit too close to home for some.

For those of you who define themselves by their diets and or exercise, look away now and google ‘what does a Victoria’s secret model eat?’ instead.

“No, no. I cannot eat that”

“Oh I’m great thanks, I’ve just become a vegan actually!”

“Well sugar is super addictive so I’ve really cut back; look at these ‘natural’ sugar treats I’ve made!”

“Ah you work in Nutrition? You must eat super healthy, do you eat bread?”

Negative Food chat. It’s everywhere, and it’s hideous.

Because actually, I quite like a bit of food chat myself, restaurants to try, new recipes and discussion about foods tried in different places.

But no, this food chat I’m talking about is a bit of not-so- humble bragging.

Introducing yourself to someone and then telling them what you do and don’t eat.

How eating meat is repulsive or why you should cut out sugar like they did.

Let’s ask ourselves why do we do this?

Since when do we define ourselves by what we put in our mouth?

Essentially, we’re saying that because we eat this certain way, we are healthier, purer and ultimately going to a more exclusive club in heaven than you.

In my opinion this goes beyond the need for weight loss and is wrapped in the quest for Ultimate Health.

Food is now the new religion, it’s a way of grouping and defining yourself.

Susan, we don’t give a hoot about your diet.

If you’re a qualified nutrition professional or doctor, by all means, give advice when asked (the crucial bit there)

If you are not, then please stop telling us what you eat and how others should too.

Nutritional science has been around for a very short amount of time, especially compated to regular  science, therefore there’s a lot of conflicting research and very little agreement on what can be labelled as ‘healthy’ (loaded term) for EVERYONE.

You might feel great cutting out gluten, but that doesn’t mean you should, and doesn’t mean your mate should, wants to or is able to.

This is also a form of food shaming. No, you’re not telling them off, but you’re congratulating yourself on food choices, therefore causing someone else to potentially feel less than. If you choose to cut out sugar, that’s your choice. The world doesn’t need to hear about it all the darn time. Don’t make your friends feel less than you because they are eating a wider range of foods.

Now, if you are someone who *is*defining themselves by their food choices, I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I can tell you – been there, seen it and done it myself.

You might want to ask yourself what that’s all about. If you were forced to not eat the way you are now, or had to eat something on the ‘forbidden’ list, how would you feel?

Becoming overly attached to a way of eating can be the start of disordered eating for many people.

Aside from this, 98% of diets fail! That means those of us who are cutting out this that and the other, are also ‘falling off the bandwagon’ due to their restrictive diets. A restricted way of eating controls your life, who you socialise with, how you spend your time and so much more. Add to this, your mates are going to associate seeing you with feeling bad about themselves and get fed up of your food preaching ways.

The real message of this post is that food obsession is rife and it’s showing no signs in slowing down. If it’s dominating your mind and your conversations then you are not alone and it doesn’t have to be this way.

Please do feel free to email me with your comments and if you need help sorting out the white food related noise, I’m your girl.

If you just want to tell me your experience, then tell me.

I can help, I do help and I will help.

ali@alisilver.co.uk